Thursday, July 11, 2013

It's getting ugly at the Tabard Inn

During the early 1970s I worked across the street from this ancient little inn. After work, a group of us would cross the street to enjoy some Tabard hospitality. During the winter, we took over a small parlor with a big fire place. As many of us that could crowded onto a long, antique sofa across from the fireplace. Shots of Jack Daniels further warmed our cockles.

During warm weather you could find us on the back patio enjoying Singapore Slings, whiskey sours, etc. The tiny restaurant produced some great meals, too. But this was before it became a landmark and “in place to be.”

Now it appears that the Inn’s ownership is leaving many of it’s employees very unhappy or showing them the door. Sexual harassment should have subsided long ago, but it seems to be alive and thriving at the Tabard. Having had to put up with it during the 60s, 70s and into the 80s, I thought we had evolved enough to understand that it is NOT RIGHT.

To my astonishment, I read that the Tabard’s owner told one female employee who complained about an uncomfortable “touchy-feely” experience with a male employee to take his sleazy comments and actions as compliments. Can you imagine?!

Are men incapable of adapting to modern standards of decorum? Unwanted sexual advances, particularly in the work place are now forbidden by law. What will it take for men and, admittedly some women, to understand this?

There is a time and place for everything. Someone’s work environment should be free of embarrassing or uncomfortable behavior. Speaking from personal experience, the fear of being groped and/or assaulted with sexual commentary is damaging and nerve-racking.

So, to the owner of the Tabard, I say: Step into the 21st century and stop accepting and supporting the Neanderthal behavior of some of your employees. If you don’t, you will lose.


Janney said...

There's a generation of kids who don't even know what feminism means. I've tried to explain it to my daughter, but crying for getting called a "boy" at school for having short hair when she was five doesn't help. Each generation has to be taught anew else they just revert back... that doesnt excuse the behaviour though.

Mark said...

I'm not surprised that kind of behavior still exists, heard too many stories from my 3 girls. When you come across a real gentleman, people make such a big thing about it, it should be the norm, but it isn't, sad.

dcpeg said...

Janney and Mark -- you are both so right! Thank you for backing me up. I'm still stunned that guys still get away with this sort off stuff.